Blog #6 – “How Could They Do This To Me?!?! Making Sense of Your World after an Affair For the Injured Spouse: “I never in a million years would have thought my husband would cheat on me. If you had told me this was going to happen, even six months ago, I would have laughed […]
10 Reasons People Cheat
Blog #5: 10 Reasons People Cheat “I just want to know, why did s/he do this?” That is, perhaps, the most common question I hear from an injured spouse immediately following the discovery of an affair, followed by, “How did s/he not think about how much this would hurt our family?” It is […]
How could you do this to me? Emotional and Physical Betrayals of Infidelity
Blog #4: How could you do this to me? Emotional and Physical Betrayals of Infidelity Affair, adultery, cheating, stepping outside of the marriage, betrayal, and being unfaithful are all terms often associated with infidelity in committed relationships. For married couples, adultery is generally understood to be engaging in sex with someone who is not your […]
The 9 Stages of Infidelity Recovery
Blog #3: Will I get through this? The 9 Stages of Infidelity Recovery “What’s next for me, for us?” one woman asked me after discovering her husband’s indiscretion with a family friend. “How is this supposed to work?” And by “this” she meant saving their marriage and getting past what had happened. I knew she […]
Reconciling after an Affair
Blog #2: Reconciling after an Affair A couple recently came to my office after the husband discovered that his wife had been engaged in an online affair with another man. Understandably, the husband was deeply hurt and his initial response was one of anger. He had lost all trust in her. He tried to take […]
Hope.Trust.Heal.
Blog #1: Hope Trust Heal Welcome to Hope Trust Heal (HTH). I know how devastating infidelity, substance abuse, or pornography addiction can be for couples and I want to help. As a licensed marriage and family therapist with many years of experience, I have seen first-hand the impact that that affairs and addiction can have […]